Okay, so I figure no one reads blogs anymore but I have a serious question here. So please, someone, help!
So, I got engaged about a month ago to the most amazing guy ever. I'm seriously crazy about this guy and I am so excited to take on the adventures of life with him. I couldn't ask for a better partner in crime.
Now fun fact about me: I have never dreamed of my future wedding.
Like, seriously. I never thought I would get married. EVER. But that obviously changed. And now that I am planning my own, I honestly don't really care about it. All I want is to be married for eternity to the guy I love with all my heart. That's it. is that too much to ask? Now I have to make a huge display about it and have guests and family and friends and a reception and party and invitations and this pointless thing and that pointless thing that really mean nothing to the union of Daniel and I. And for whatever reason when my fiance tell his mom (who is taking care of the reception while I am at school) that I don't care what the decorations look like, she doesn't believe it. Because weddings have gotten so out of hand that stereotypical the bride is supposed to have every last detail figured out. And then I am supposed to have a bridal shower too? The heck! I don't even celebrate my birthday! The idea of having so many people attend a party about me is just weird in my eyes. And then I have to care about what food I am serving and how to keep all these guest entertained when only 30 of them are from my side. Having all this attention honestly makes me nervous for whatever reason. I guess I never understood the big deal behind it and why everyone that's ever been in my life (and probably don't care) has to be invited and included in this wedding.
After all that; my really question is: Why is that weddings seem to only be about the bride?
First off it doesn't feel like it's about me or my fiance. It's turned into pleasing the relatives. And secondly, I don;t really care for the big display of my very, very personal feelings and intimate life I'm about to have with my fiance.
So please. Someone. Help me out here!
peace
:) Weddings usually only seem to be for the bride, because of the stereotypical "fairy tale" that most believe that the wedding is part of. Make sense? The men just want to get marriage over with. But you, sarah, are not a ordinary woman who wants an over-the-top wedding celebration. Which is just fine! :) Just think of the reception as a gift. You are sharing your new step in life with family and friends, and when you give a gift you want it to be heart-felt and well thought out. You don't have to pick the most expensive things, or worry about who the people are. But just know that these people are coming to your wedding because they love you and are anxious to know you. The bridal shower isn't really your job (it should be the maid of honor's job to plan and set up), and all it is, is you and your friends and maybe mother (and in-law if you want) getting together and having fun and helping with the unknowns of marriage. Don't let it stress you out. It is all about you and your fiancé. But it is also something you are sharing with others. Because marriage isn't just you starting your own family, its bringing two families together.
ReplyDeleteIf you really don't want to do a big reception, don't! You can do a small gathering with just close family and friends. Don't let anyone take over YOUR big day! If you need any more help, just let me know. :)
Sarah,
ReplyDeleteI agree with Lauren. If you don't want something big, don't have something big. My favorite part of my wedding was a luncheon that we had after the temple ceremony. I didn't do anything for it, but it was just immediate family and friends that came to the temple to support and celebrate with us. Almost everything that happened at my wedding was planned by other people and I just showed up. If you dont want to be a major planner, just give your mother-in-law colors and let her work her magic. It's your wedding day and people just want to be there to celebrate and show you support in your new step in life. Let me know if I can do anything.